Interview With Nick Wale

Looking to the future

Looking to the future

Below is an interview Nick recently conducted for journalist Mac Miller.

When he arrived I did not know what to expect from him. Slowly, he looked around and noticed me. The first thing I noticed were his eyes, unlike any I’ve seen before. Nick Wale is handsome, rugged and a man completely away from his own generation. His size struck me more than anything– he’s working class– yet classically Roman. I was taken off guard as he smiled at my wife. Still, when we started the interview I was put at ease by his friendly and easy going nature.

Q Nice to meet you Nick– this is your first interview– correct?

A) Yes- my first for this book– I have been interviewed before.

Q) I won’t take it easy on you then.

A) Naw, now don’t be mean to me. I am new to this!

Q) First off, let me ask you what that record is under your arm?

A) Bobby Darin sings Ray Charles on Atlantic. I think Bobby Darin is just the end! Have you heard it?

Q) No– is it good? I’m a Darin fan too!

A) Get out of here! Well, it’s a swinging album, brother– here take this one and I’ll get another.

Q) Thank you– I will take it easy on you now– ready for the first question?”

A) Shoot

Q) So, you’ve finally finished “The Rose Amongst the Thorns”. How does it feel to be an author?

A) Pretty good, Mac! I guess it’s all down to good luck and blessings from God that we managed to finish it. I just follow the old adage– good luck brings forth more good luck and a little quicksand at times.

Q) How do you promote your work?

A) Well, I guess I use all the old carny tricks in the book. We make great use of Facebook and Twitter. I have a mailing list and of course the blog. I was recently telling Lori, my beautiful fiancee and co-author of “Rose”, about the importance of the blog– 1000 hits in two months is pleasing! I know we can do better.

Q) 1000 hits in two months? You don’t consider that a resounding success?

A) I consider it a beginning and I know we can do better. The way I see it is simple. There’s a 1000 hits now and perhaps 10,000 tomorrow and it’s all down to marketing and audience share.

Q) Do you believe “Rose Amongst the Thorns” is a hit?

A) I believe that it is not just a hit– I believe it is the hit of the decade. The book tells a dramatic true life story and tells it well. Lori is an excellent writer and I believe she has done some of her best work. This book isn’t just a book– it’s a movie and a series of books.

Q) Social commentary?

A) Indeed and a huge chunk of history to go with it. The original manuscript had more social commentary than this cut– but we gave up some story to make it more commercial– more viable for an audience.

Q) So it was rewritten?

A) Of course, who can write a book without rewrites and editing? We took it upon ourselves to do the first rewrite and the second was down to advice we were given from a great agent.

Q) So, an agent gave you some insight?

A) Yes, absolutely! Andrew Murray emailed me directly and read the first rewrite and loved it. He gave us invaluable advice and then we took his words and ran with them. The man was a guiding star to Lori and I!

Q) So, tell us about Nick Wale the man.

A) I’m a simple guy really– very easy going and devoted to my home life. I like to wake up slowly and get enough sleep. That’s one thing I loved about the process of writing “Rose”. It was one of those wonderful processes over a few months. I just worked hard and rested easy. Relaxing? I never relax in the day– I work and I catch up with my fellow writers and political buddies. I have a lot of friends in the business and some I would even like to represent as an agent.

Q) So, you want to become an agent?

Mac– I believe in doing as much as possible and I would become an agent in the time it takes to write my name. I have met some incredible authors who just don’t get the sales that they should. For example take Doug R Cobb– he is an excellent writer– yet he doesn’t get the sales he needs to give up the day job. I believe he could be the biggest thing since Steven King if given the chance.

Q) Douglas R Cobb? Author of “Crossing The Dead Line?”

A) Yes– I believe he has a film already written with that one.

Q) I’ll be sure to look out for it Nick– so what’s your home life like?

A) Bit personal, eh? Well it’s the same as everyone else’s– we don’t have any dinosaurs in the bath or anything. Lori and I like music and TV and we spend a lot of our time together. I believe in spending time with my family and nothing makes me happier.

Q) What does Lori think about the success you’ve had so far?

A) I think sometimes she worries that I’m a carny– she cringes a lot when she sees some of the things I do for promotion. I think she is proud though and happy– if she wasn’t happy I would give it up and get another job in an instant.

Q) Does Lori have any side projects?

A) She cross stitches and watches TV– she likes Mexican food and I think she has a new book in mind. It’s about a bored housewife running off to Greece and Turkey. I believe it’s a winner and it’s based on truth.

Q) Thank you for the heads up about her new work. Do you have any new projects on the go?

A) I have some news articles I’m currently working on and hope to sell to papers and I have two new books in mind. The first is a prequel to “Rose” and the second has the working title of “Poverty”. I will be previewing a few chapters soon on my blog.

Q) You seem to be pretty adult orientated for a 22 year old! What do you attribute such a strong work ethic to?

A) Well, Mac– I guess I’m not the same as other guys my age. I just see the world and look for the opportunities. Lori calls me a visionary at times. I believe it’s more down to the fact that I want to achieve. I like being me and that means that I want to be me for a long time. If I wasn’t writing or trying to write or be around writers, I wouldn’t be me.

Q) Back to “Rose” for a moment– can you tell us more about it?

A) Sure– “Rose” is the true story of my mother who suffered with depression. I guess the truth is that she went haywire for a time and things were hard until I met Lori. Mum and Lori were like oil and water to begin with and times were tough, but mum made the effort to fix herself and change her life. I am so proud of her for that– it’s a long and shocking tale– but it really does show the lows that depressives go to. Depression is a rampant disease, Mac, and it’s only by sharing experiences and making a positive change that we will fix it. There are lots of people out there suffering because of it.

Q) So, you want to help people?

A) Yes, sir, that’s one of my main goals and it will always be one of my main goals. I have been given a lot in this life and I would like to put back as much as I can. I believe that everyone should have opportunities and with this book I hope to give many, many people opportunities.

Q) How will you do this?

A) I want to start working with teenagers to get themselves into a profession and out of the jobcentre. I want to get people to write their stories and share their experiences. I would like as an agent to pick up books by writers who aren’t making enough money– and make them the money. I am not in this for myself– I’m in this business to make it happen for everyone I meet.

Q) Who is your personal hero?

A) Well, there’s a guy named Ed Powers who is one of my best friends. I really feel that he changes a lot of lives through his sermons and such. I have spent many hours talking to him and he just believes without question in things I do– that takes some guts because people say I’m crazy.

Q) Why crazy?

A) 22 and an author– ideas and marketing like mine– they say to me– Nick you are loopy– I just smile, hey Mac! Perhaps I am loopy.

Q) Not loopy– driven I would say Nick.

A) Well, thank you! I do realise that my age is against me in many ways. I guess people just don’t take guys my age seriously– they say “Hey, wait till you grow up a bit, boy.”

Q) What do you say to that?

A) I always just smile and say if I wait any longer — I’ll lose it!

Q) So when will “Rose Amongst the Thorns” hit the shelves and internet sites?

A) It’s with publishers right now and I’m waiting to hear back. There hasn’t been a single rejection yet of the new manuscript and I think they’re going to love it as much as we do. I guess it’s all a waiting game now.

Q) Well from what I’ve read– I love it and I hear the whole book has been described as Pulitzer worthy?

A) Aww, I don’t know about that! I just hope its book-binding worthy!

Mac) Thank you for your time Nick and I wish you every success.

Nick) Thank you, Mac!

We shook hands and with that it was over and he left. Nick Wale, a guy with drive and ambition, was gone and all I have to say is– good luck to him and thanks for the record. This is a guy to watch! We will be seeing a lot more of him, I’m sure!

Nick enjoying the Darin disc.

Nick enjoying the Darin disc.

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Laying Down in the Hands of God

There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

I have always believed that changes in your life happen for a reason. The reason is always a catalyst– you do not have bad luck. Changes happen to just move your life and direction towards a larger goal.

Failure is not an end and it never has been. To fail is just to change your direction. I believe that everyone is given the opportunity to advance on each path taken.

Lori and I first wrote “The Rose Amongst the Thorns” at a darkened point of my life. The world I personally lived in was in turmoil and I had returned home from the United States. I wanted to write about my journey and more importantly the journey my mother took. If you have taken the time to read the first two chapters of our work, then you will have learnt how hard life was for me growing up. I think you will also know how hard things were for my mother. The abuse she took from my father changed her. The path fate had placed her on was tough. She crumbled and resisted the change as she was unable to comprehend life without my father. The main domineering focus of her life was gone. Without her guiding and abusive controller she had no direction.

What was she to do?

She fell and never fully recovered. It was hard for her to accept Lori as my partner and impossible for her to give me the freedom I needed. However, I could not give my life to her depression and she could not understand why I felt the need to venture into a bigger world. Finally– she took the first steps into her own vast universe. The book details her resurrection and the steps she took to take her life into her own hands.

YOU can do the same and you will succeed.

A friend of mine recently broke up with her long term boyfriend. She lost and her home at the end of its lease. There was no way she could continue on the path she stood upon.

We talked and I assured her that things would get better. I told her that in time things would recover.

Time heals all wounds and now she finds herself in a new part of the country and with a new boyfriend. The world has handed her a second wind.

I find myself in the position I have always dreamed of. Lori and I are to be married and our book is completed.

People say to me– Nick! The book will be a huge success and seems to be a great premise for a movie.”

I smile and thank them for their kind words. I leave things in the hands of fate. It is I who lives in the hand of God. It is I is marrying the love of my life.

Lori and I have taken the path and now we will see– tomorrow, as all tomorrows, is a brand new day.

Dickie Valentine: All The Time and Everywhere…

England has had some great singers in the past. Not all had huge hits, not all sang with the same vibrancy their American counterparts had, but there was one who could match any singer. This one singer could really swing, entertain and create awe inspiring performances.

His name? Dickie Valentine!”

Now you may not know his records so well. You may not have even heard his name, but I am telling you that this guy was in the same league as Sinatra. I could tell that voice anywhere, strong, masculine and perfectly toned. The records are classy and well arranged, by top arrangers.

So WHY is not remembered today as one of the best?

When Mr Valentine broke onto the scene it was primitive and filled with many different kinds of music. There was David Whitfield storming through his hit operatic records and Dave King smoothly crooning tunes at ease. The boy known as Dickie Valentine was something new, something exciting.

He had been singing with the bands for years, early records like “That Lovely Week-end” were pretty, bland and rather mundane. Then came the separation, the solo career that he started, started with a bang!

“All The Time and Everywhere” was the first, then came a string of hits, unstoppable in the hit parade. The year was 1954 and girls swooned as the handsome, young Mr Valentine stole their hearts.

“Mr Sandman”, “The Clown That Cried” and “Endless” were all big hits. The world knew who this guy was and he was voted top singer of 1954.

His biggest hit came with “Finger of Suspicion”. This fine record climbed right up to that precious number one slot. The man was now a fully fledged teen idol and when that record was released he was caught in a hotel by fans. The crowds of fans were not going to be happy until he appeared at a window to sing his number one.

There he stood, they screamed and he sang into those sultry, sexy tones. He would never forget “The Finger of Suspicion” and neither would the fans.

In those far off days of the fifties, albums were not common. The market did not crave them, single records sold and were the discs of teenagers.

Mr Valentine made albums.

He could sell them!

It was a classic, a recording of one of his sold out shows. The sleeve showed the man in his showbiz stances, playing to the audience. The record was an early live recording, a novelty and a piece of history. Here Is Dickie Valentine” was a stronger effort than any of his contemporaries had managed thus far. it contained all the hits up to that time. The crowd was enthusiastic and the man on top form. On top of all that singing talent, he was a great comic. The album showcased his impressions and jokes to the full. What teenage girl of the fifties would not scream with laughter at his Martin and Lewis impression?”

Rock and Roll came along, the hits dried up. Mr Valentine” moved to Pye records. He sang better than he ever had, his voice matured now. The style that had set girls alight, now moved onto the nightclubs, tv spots and other money making ventures.

He was established! He was not a record maker anymore, the man who had made some of the best selling records of the fifties now toured. He never stopped working and finally it was the mid sixties.

Phillips wanted to make an album with him, he said yes.

Heartful of Song— it was called.

What was it like? In one word, it was Excellent. The teen idol no more– he was in Sinatra territory. The songs were smooth, gentle and loving. The voice melodic, manly, strong and beautiful. Could there ever be better performances of “Something Good?

With its success he headlined more concert venues, then came the event of a lifetime.

“Dickie Valentine- Live at the Talk of the Town.” The record sleeve screamed. The cover shows a picture of an angelic looking man, singing to his fans, his admiring followers.

The concert was a success and the album a hit. He was back, impressions, songs and class.

What happened to the plastic Surgeon? He sat by the fire and melted.”

It was like he had never been away.

The Rose Amongst The Thorns– First Two Chapters

OK Folks,

This is it!! Based on some awesome critiques (thank you beta readers and fans!!), we lengthened and redrafted Rose Amongst the Thorns into its final permutation.

Below are the new 1st and 2nd chapters and synopsis. If you’ve already read the previously posted chapters, you’ll see some changes in Nick’s Chapter 1 but Chapter 2 is completely new material from Lori.

As always, please comment! Your feedback is welcome and invaluable!

*** Warning — adult language ***

Rose had been married to a man who beat her daily, both physically and psychologically. She became dependant on her abuser and when he dies, she has no way to cope. She falls into a deep depression fuelled by years of anger and estrangement.

When Nick is a young boy of age seven, still reeling from the death of his father, he becomes subject to Rose’s anger at the world. At first he just accepts the abuse, but then he learns to cope with it. As he grows older, Rose insists he become her constant companion and surrogate husband, to the detriment of his own development. He wants to make his mother better, and at the same time he is fighting hard to survive the race– the race for his own identity and freedom.

Lori is an older American woman who meets a young Englishman, Nick, now twenty-two, online. The two of them forge a strong and unbreakable bond, but she in unaware her lover has a dark secret.

“The Rose Amongst the Thorns” is the true story of three people and their will to survive and ultimately thrive as a family unit. What will they do when they find themselves thrown together? How will they manage?

This 60,000 word memoir details the struggle all three endure as Rose grapples with her own insecurities and jealousy; Nick attempts to assert his independence and move on from the confines of his mother’s unrealistic expectations; and Lori is caught in the middle, ultimately becoming the catalyst for healing for all of them.

“You’re never defeated, you’re never beaten down, as long as you have hope.” – Norman Vincent Peale

Chapter One

“Go on, finish me off you bastard!”

Silence briefly followed, only broken by footsteps and silent sobs.

A scream echoed as a foot connected with its target.

Silence resumed.

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I awoke to the sound of my father making breakfast, the normal daily occurrences happening all around me. My feet crept out from under the heavy blankets to find the floor– the cold hard floor. I had forgotten what I had heard the night before. There was not much to remember, some cries and sobs. That’s all. I wandered out of my parents’ large bedroom and stepped into the small, steep stairwell that led downstairs. My father was still busy with his morning routine, but my mother wasn’t heard. I crept down the stairs, one by one and finally reached the bottom of the mountain.

Slowly, I opened the door leading to the kitchen. My father stood at the table, still placing table mats and cutlery. Humming a happy tune, probably something he had heard on a jazz record, he looked up at me. There was no smile, no storm or tempest. The look was cold and his finger pointed towards the cereal he now poured into a bowl. I looked for my mother, she sat cowered in a corner chair. Her face, I saw it in its morning glory. The black and blue bruises mingled with her pale English rose complexion. I did not ask her what happened, for I knew. My father might have forgotten but she hadn’t. She wore the scars and those same scars turned her into the person she became later on.

The village closest to our house could have been any small English town. Everyone had secrets. The drug-addicted chemist who neglected his duty, the bank manager who slowly fiddled the books to push money into his own coffers, the pious woman on the church board who was having an affair with two of her neighbour’s husbands. The village kept its secrets close to its hard boiled breast. I grew up learning that a smile was not necessarily kind and a cry of anger did not mean that a wrong had been committed. I knew that something was amiss everytime I saw an unguarded moment from the citizens. Eyes looked cold and lonely. Faces long and drawn. I could see the terror held by so many at the thought that their own problems might become the next ‘red hot’ talking point. The age of miracles and the wonders of technology had not yet made itself known to the place I grew up and called home. Dances were still popular and school was still indebted to the class system. The Labour government of 1997 had not yet swept to power. I grew up in a hive of Conservatism, and I knew of nothing else. My father was staunchly Conservative, and my mother was told how to vote. She did, however, assert herself at times; she would take pity on the Liberals. My father, always angry at this, would chide about the poor performance of the party at every election. It was not common to see a debate in our house. As in most English households of that era, my father’s word was law.

The village was beautiful, outsiders found it to be a haven from the busy cities and towns littering the country. History once had been made in the area, wars won and crowns lost. Nobility still survived in the town and the Great Hall lay monument to its impressive past. Even the secrets could not take away from the grandeur of the place. The car pulled into the car park, nestled close to the war memorial in the main square. I stared out of the window and saw its huge mass as it lay a dark shadow over the cobblestones. My mother stepped out of the vehicle to do her daily shopping. I can only imagine the embarrassment she must have felt, her face bruised and bloated from her long night. She gazed at me and tried to smile. I smiled back as best I could and stepped out of the car and stood beside her. My hand reached up for the comfort of her own.

“Let’s do the shopping, dear boy,” she said in her calm and loving way.

“Maybe Daddy will be pleased with us.”

I shrugged, knowing deep down that he wouldn’t be pleased.

We walked across the road and made for the local post office, my mother weathering the stares and hushed scorn from every citizen she met.

There was nothing said, just a general knowledge that my mother would be the next discussion point at coffee mornings. My father, generally known as a great man, would not lose any of his stature. The villagers would blame my mother and she would be seen as a failed wife and mother. Her punishment already delivered and the embarrassment of carrying the scars would be considered an apt display of a husband’s right to beat his wife. Nobody would stand up for her, she knew that. The village would stare, point and scold her for his actions. We walked into the post office and I could feel the eyes of the town glaring at us. I could hear the whispers.

“What did she do?” one woman whispered.

“She was wayward?” Another questioned.

“I would ask, but I don’t like to pry.”

“I agree.”

I could hear them muttering to themselves and I am sure my mother could, too. This had not been the first beating, and would not be the last. It was just another morning of humiliation in our fair village.

We managed to do our shopping in relative peace and headed home. The world was still turning. I looked up at my mother, her bruises still blue and ugly.

“Do they hurt?” my six year old self asked.

Silence. Then finally, “Yes.”

“Why did Daddy hit you?” I asked.

“Because you got into our bed and Daddy got angry.”

I thought to myself in silence. It’s all my fault.

The car pulled into a drive, not ours. This was the home of my mother’s adopted mother, Mrs Agatha. Her bungalow was out of town and she lived the rural way she had always known. There were no mod cons here, just a small bungalow and the land owner’s home across from her abode. The car stopped outside her house and she stepped out. I followed, the gravel under my feet crunching as I followed her into the dingy property. The décor was a mix of the old world and the older world. Clean, but smelling strongly of cheap cigarettes– I close my eyes now and still smell it. There she sat, in her small kitchen, her cup in her hand and cigarette in the ashtray balancing on her leg. My parents had lived in the bungalow across from her once. My mother had met Mrs Agatha a long time ago, and they had become fast friends. She smiled as she saw my mother walk into the room.

“Hello, Rose,” she said welcoming her adopted daughter.

“Hello,” my mother replied sitting herself down, eyes downcast.

I stood, waiting to be asked to sit down. That was the way I had been taught.

“Sit down, little man,” Mrs Agatha said with a smile. “What a nice polite boy you are.”

I smiled my most angelic smile and waited to be asked to assist with the tea making. It was always my job to fetch the biscuits, the broken biscuits that Mrs Agatha always bought from the market on Wednesdays.

Upon seeing my mother’s battered face, her eyes widened. “What happened?” she asked.

“Thomas hit me.”

“Well, I can see that, my dear,” she said with concern. “I mean, what started it?”

My mother glanced over at me.

“Nicholas, you know where the biscuits are,” Mrs. Agatha said with a knowing grin. “Be a good boy and bring some in for all of us.”

I went in the kitchen and stood by the door so I could hear the conversation.

“Oh, Agatha,” my mother sobbed. “It was horrible. The worst one yet.”

Mrs Agatha smiled no more. She sat in silence. Finally she sighed and lit another cigarette and waited for my mother to continue.

“Nicholas had a nightmare and came in wanting a cuddle. I let him get into bed with us. He was terribly shaken up,” my mother’s voice broke with emotion.

I had indeed had a nightmare. A ten-foot spider, or maybe Godzilla, had been chasing me. All I remember is that I was petrified and wanted to curl up with her and feel safe. Apparently, I had done something wrong.

“Thomas woke up and when he discovered Nicholas in bed with us, he got up and stormed out of the room. I went downstairs to follow him and he…” her voice trailed off.

“I’ve never seen him so angry, Agatha. I don’t know who he is anymore,” she was crying now. “He always wanted a child. I don’t know why he hates Nicholas so.”

“I’ve known Thomas a long time, Rose. I always thought he was incredibly selfish,” Mrs Agatha said, her voice saddened by my mother’s story. “He acts the big man, but he’s very insecure, I think.”

“I know he is, Agatha,” my mother said, her voice stronger now. “I do everything I can to please him, but nothing is enough. He doesn’t even think Nicholas is his.”

I collected the biscuits and brought them back into the lounge, sitting myself on the floor next to my mother. I wanted to comfort her. I wanted to be someone different – someone my father would love and approve of. I wanted to disappear.

That night my mother was late picking up from work the man I had been encouraged to call Daddy. She had been caught behind a slow moving tractor. Edgy and tense, she tried to pass. No opportunity presented itself. I sat in the back. We watched as he walked out of work, still laughing from a joke one of his friends had told him.
“You’re late,” he said coldly, as he got in the car.

“I’m sorry,” she said, her hands trembling slightly.

“No good being sorry.”

He drove steadily back home. I didn’t utter a word. Finally, we pulled into our familiar driveway. The sky darkened as our car headed toward the house. It looked cold and uninviting, but I knew that within an hour my mother would have it warm. There would be a fire burning in the lounge fireplace and warm food would be presented to my father. The food would have to be made within half an hour of his return. That was his mandate. If she ever passed that mark then he wouldn’t eat it. If he didn’t eat, then there would be a beating.
Daddy had eaten dinner and now sat watching television. I sat still on the sofa reading a book. My mother sat silently, waiting for the next order from my father.

“I’m still hungry. I want a bacon sandwich,” he demanded. “Get me one!”

My mother did not say anything. She jumped and ran off to get him the sandwich. My father looked at me and smiled. I was too young to know how sadistic he was, but I knew I had to fear him and not to underestimate him.

“That, boy, is how you treat women.”
I said nothing. He looked at me and smiled.

“You will be a handsome man some day, and you must know to keep a woman in her place.”

I was dubious.

My mother returned with the bacon sandwich. She walked slowly towards my father who sat still. Suddenly, he pointed towards the table on the other side of his chair.

I knew what was coming next.

My mother moved in front of him and he tripped her up, she fell and the sandwich fell onto the floor. My father stood up and kicked the plate away. My mother tried to push herself up, but had winded herself.

“That is what you get for picking me up late!” my father screamed. “Now get me a sandwich!”

I watched my poor mother try to pick herself up. My father watched as she finally managed to get on her feet. I wanted to help, but fear overtook my body. I sat still and ended up staring at the ground. I hated him.

My father was in pain. We all knew that he had problems with his back. Years of hard labour had taken their toll on his body, although he was still a fine figure of a man. He was ageing quickly, however. Nobody would have thought that his ailments would be caused by a disease. My mother wanted him to go and see a doctor. He did not want to, he made that clear. His answer was to take handful after handful of paracetamol to control the pain. It worked, at first.

“Thomas, you really should see a doctor,” my mother begged of him.

“I am not going to see any fucking doctor. Now get my dinner on this table.”

That was the end of any discussion. My mother did not dare to continue the conversation.

Motor Neurone Disease is a very under-publicised condition. My father didn’t know he had it. Then when he was finally diagnosed he refuted it, but eventually, he had no choice but to give into it. The anger he felt was displayed with every punch, kick or snarly remark.

One morning, as his coordination was failing, he dropped a teapot. It shattered on the floor.

“This is your fault,” he told me. “If you hadn’t been born then I wouldn’t have this disease!”

“I didn’t do anything, Daddy,” I professed as I tried to escape a beating.

“The hell you didn’t,” he said already promising a punishment. “I had to work hard to feed you, and you’re not even my kid!”

I felt lost, abused and lonely. My own father denied that I was his. I was, I knew that I was his child. Ever since one of his friends had jokingly told him that I could be someone else’s, my father had taken it to heart that I wasn’t. My mother took several beatings over his insecurity.
“I know he isn’t mine!” he would scream. “I know it and I know you fuck behind my back!”

My mother would cry, and try to defend herself. She knew that the end result would always be the same. The beating would be systematic. I felt so sorry for her. I wished nightly I could do more for her.

The secret of his illness did not take long to infect the village. Everyone knew that he was dying. I knew it, before I was meant to know. One old woman came up to me in the middle of the village store.

“I hear your father is dying,” she said, hoping for some juicy gossip or perhaps details of his ailment. I can see her face now, she was wrinkled. So wrinkled, old and broken down.
I had nothing to say, what could I say? The only thing I knew about death was that I knew Elvis was dead, and something about Princess Diana that I had heard on the TV. I was not told what death was.

“Doesn’t matter, the world doesn’t stop turning because one person dies.”

My mother jumped in and rescued me from the old crone. I watched as we walked away from her, her face cold and wrinkled as she stared back at me.

“Mummy?” I said, waiting for her reply as we drove home.

“Yes?” she replied.

“Why did that old woman say Daddy was dying?” I asked, almost crying.

My mother sighed, “He isn’t dying.”

“How do you know?” I asked, hoping for some proof.

“I just do!” she snapped, breaking under the pressure of my questions. I knew not to push the matter any further.

We arrived home and I helped to carry the groceries inside. The house was warm and ready for a night in the cold country air. We entered the house and my father sat there in front of the fire. By this time, he was in a wheelchair. The vibes were angry. My mother tried to ignore the atmosphere. I moved too close and he lunged at me with his pick-up stick. I managed to elude its blow.

“I hate you!” he seethed as he stared at me. “Why don’t you take everything!”

I stood back and stared at him, stunned.

“Take this!” he said, as he undid the silver Timex watch I had helped my mother pick out for his birthday. “You might as well have it!”

I watched as he threw the watch at me. I dodged it. I saw it broken on the floor and ran from the room, crying.

My mother was having a hard time coping, but she managed. There was not one person in the village, the almighty village, that offered to help her. My father fell over a couple of times as his strength continued to fail, and she could not lift him. She struggled, and finally managed to get him up and onto the toilet seat. By this time, his legs were gone. The disease was taking its hardest toll. He lashed out at her and many blows found their way to her body. Yet, even with all the abuse he had thrown at her she never once stopped caring for him, looking after him. I was never once neglected, I was always fed and loved. Something inside of her died though, she became tough and uncaring. The world had shown her that she was on her own. This woman was on twenty-four hour call to look after my father.

Eventually she couldn’t take any more– it was a matter of putting my father or myself in care.

She chose to have him sent to a hospice.

He stabilized and came home for a while. Nurses and doctors came every day to see how he was doing. Never once did any of them consider the way my mother felt. She was stuck with the stress of a young boy and an ill husband. The worst times were at night. We could hear him downstairs, his breathing laboured and heavy. She would stay awake all night listening to him breathing, hoping that he would make the night. Sometimes she would try to read me a bedtime story, but he would scream up the stairs.

“Stop telling that fucking kid a story and get the fuck down here to care for me.”

She would go, but always returned to finish the story. He was trying his hardest to get me out of the picture, even going so far as to get the social services involved.

The phone rang out. It was teatime and I had been back from school for a few hours.

“Hello, we are coming to collect Nicholas in an hour.”

“Pardon?” my mother asked incredulously, glancing at my father who was throwing his food on the floor to gain attention.

“We have been informed by your husband that Nicholas is at risk. We are coming to collect him.”

“Like hell you are!” my mother responded. She found the guts to stand up to them somewhere inside herself.

“We can do what we want, madam.”

“Really?” Mother replied. “Well, he’s my son and if you want him then you’ll have to go through me.”

The conversation ended, my father smirking at the table and my mother, panicking, wondering what to do next.
She phoned her friend, a local doctor, who intervened. The problem was solved. I remained at home with my mother, and my father went back to the hospice.

Soon thereafter, I had just come back from a school trip. Surprisingly, my mother did not come to collect me from school as she normally did. She sent one of her few friends from the village.

“Don’t worry, she’ll be home soon,” she smiled at me. She was very friendly but something was odd about how she looked at me that day.

I had no idea what I was doing here. This lady was kind and comforting, but I longed to see my mother again. I wanted her to tell me that things would be alright. I felt panic rising in my gut. Hours passed, darkness fell, and I wondered what was going on. No one explained.

A knock came at the door and Wayne, Mrs Agatha’s landlord, stood there.

“I’ve come to fetch Nicholas,” he said with a grin. I liked him.

“How is his mother?” the lady asked in a hushed tone, as I collected my belongings.

“I don’t know. She phoned and asked Mrs Agatha to get me to collect him.”
I thanked the lady for giving me a home for a few hours. Wayne looked down and smiled at me. There was something odd about how he looked at me, too. Something was wrong. I didn’t know it then, but my life would be changed forever.

Chapter Two

“Lori, this is Dr. Tanner. Please call me immediately at my office.”

beeeep….

“Lori, this is Dr. Tanner again. It’s urgent that I speak with you. Please call me as soon as you receive this message!”

At the same time I was listening to the messages, I had opened my email. There was an email marked urgent, also from Dr. Tanner, giving me both her office number and cell number and asking me to contact her immediately. Whenever the doctor gives you her personal cell number, you know it’s not good.

Shit.

It was a tumor.

I knew it.

I had known it all along.

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During the previous year, I started noticing I was becoming somewhat unstable on my feet. I was twisting my ankles frequently and stumbling up and down stairs. I put it down to fatigue and just general klutziness, although I’d never been that way before. In September, I was in the yard after having taken care of the chickens and on my way back to the house I fell. Hard. I had my hands full with some flower pots and I stumbled and went down like a ton of bricks. At this time, I was also very heavy – 290 pounds or so – and that’s a lot of dead weight to have strike the ground. I literally landed on my face as the flower pots went flying yards away. I had gravel rash on my face and my knees and elbows were banged up. I shook it off and came into the house to sit down and ice my twisted ankle. I put it down to the general klutziness I had been experiencing more and more frequently.

A few days later, I developed a headache. I shrugged it off as a delayed reaction to the fall and I took some Tylenol. After a week or so of no relief, I made a doctor’s appointment. I had no insurance and not a lot of money coming in, so this was a big decision. My doctor suggested I had incurred whiplash from the fall and recommended a chiropractor. Again, not being covered by insurance, chiropractic visits would need to come out of my ever-shrinking bank account. I saw the chiropractor twice and had no results; in fact, my headaches were getting worse. Surely, it must have been trauma from that fall and if I was careful, it would resolve on its own. My doctor had given me a prescription for Vicodin which I was taking regularly with limited relief.

Around the same time, I received an email from an astute, young Englishman who wanted to know more about the American healthcare system. I had been commenting on a political page on the internet and something I said piqued his interest. I felt quite passionately about the subject at the time– I had suffered this persistent headache for several weeks by this time, but due to my financial circumstances, I was resisting returning to the doctor. We had several email exchanges and there was something about this guy that fascinated me. He was highly intelligent and well spoken, and he had this hunger for knowledge and general curiosity which I really appreciated. His emails frequently started, “Tell me more about….” and he eagerly absorbed the information I gave him and formulated more hypotheses and potential political solutions. Not only was he intelligent and friendly, he was incredibly respectful and polite. I liked him. I really liked him. When I discovered early on he was only twenty-two years old, I kept my feelings at arm’s length and intended to take him under my wing as an adopted younger brother. As I was to discover, my growing feelings were not to be kept at bay, however.

My headaches continued and were becoming more than just annoying. I was popping Vicodin like M&Ms especially at night to help me sleep and dull the pounding. Over several weeks, I noticed I had to stop cross stitching, my favorite hobby, because my eyes were becoming very fatigued and I couldn’t see well, even with the help of reading glasses. I put it down to the pain of the headaches causing discomfort in my eyes. What I didn’t realize is my vision was beginning to fail.

As October became November, I was chatting daily to Nick online. It became a habit and I began to anticipate seeing him sign into chat. When I saw “Nick is online” pop up on my screen and heard the ding of the notification, I always smiled and got that giddy butterfly tummy feeling. I felt like a silly high school girl again. I realized my feelings for him were deepening, but I continued to view him as a young man to whom I could impart my wisdom (such as it is) and guide on the path of life. I was still married, afterall, despite feeling it was in name only. We continued to talk politics and public policy and he educated me on British politics, of which I was completely ignorant. He slowly gave me some details about his life. He portrayed himself as a happy-go-lucky chap without a real care in the world.

November passed relatively uneventfully, except the daily headaches were starting to take a toll on my sanity and my vision continued to decline. My Vicodin use was approaching Dr. House-like levels. I looked so forward to my daily conversations with Nick. They became the bright spot in my day, and I complained to him about how badly I was feeling and my frustration as to why this damn headache wasn’t going away.

“How are you feeling today?” he would ask.

“Like dog crap that stepped in dog crap,” I typed back.

“Lori, this has been going on for too long. Why don’t you go back to the doctor? I think something might really be wrong.” I could feel his concern coming through the chat window.

“I’m sure it’s nothing, Nick,” I said, sweeping my own concern under the carpet in my denial of what I really thought was going on. “It has to go away sooner or later. Anyway, you know this isn’t England. We don’t have free NHS like you lucky buggers over there.”

“Surely, if it’s serious, there’s some type of coverage?” he asked.

“Well, I suppose Medi-Cal could help pick it up.” I replied, sounding more confident than I felt.

“See? Why don’t you look into it?” he prodded. “I hate hearing you feeling so down. It’s no fun being ill. Besides, you haven’t been yourself.” Even in a few short weeks of chatting, he could see a marked difference in me.

My most disappointing days were when I was in too much pain or my vision was too bad to actually sit at the computer. I retired to bed with a cloth over my eyes and my Vicodin bottle….and missed him. Unlike Gene, he seemed to really care.

The beginning of December came and I was still in daily, increasing pain, my vision was getting worse, and my balance was being affected. I realized it when I was walking from the computer room into the kitchen, a journey of about seventy-five feet, and I got so dizzy I walked into the wall. I thought it was because I hadn’t eaten much – afterall, I was going into the kitchen because I was hungry! The dizziness waned that day, but continued to worsen in duration and severity over the next few weeks.

About two weeks before Christmas I woke up from sleep and felt absolutely dreadful. The moment I moved from a supine position, I felt instantly and overwhelmingly nauseous. I barely made it to the toilet before wretching. Of course, the action of vomiting felt like it split my head wide open. “Great, I have the flu on top of all this,” I thought. As much as I wanted to deny it, a niggling reality would not be ignored.

A heavy cloud of depression came over me. I missed Nick because I hadn’t been able to converse with him much since I couldn’t sit at the computer for long periods; I was half-heartedly looking for work, feeling too ill to really care; my eleven-year marriage was all but broken up and I heard Gene’s abuse ringing in my ears about what a failure I had become.
“I want a divorce! I want a divorce!” he had screamed at me the night before. Things had been getting bad between us for a few years and I had let things slide the last few months due to not feeling well. The house was a mess, the laundry piling up, I didn’t cook like I used to. Sex had been out of the question. He couldn’t grasp I wasn’t just being lazy– I really felt seriously ill. He couldn’t, or wouldn’t, hear it. There was no quality communication between us anymore. Perhaps there really never had been.

I felt totally hopeless. I lay that morning, tears streaming down my face, with my head on the toilet seat, asking God to either kill me or heal me.

I vomited multiple times a day for several days, each time feeling like an axe was splitting my head open, trying to eat soup and saltines and make it all go away. After a week, I knew that I had to go back to the doctor. I made an appointment for the next day, still insistent I had the flu and just needed an anti-viral and of course, more Vicodin. I couldn’t walk on my own from the car to the doctor’s office. Remember how you felt as a kid after spinning around and trying to walk? Add the worst migraine you can imagine and that was close to how it felt. Gene, whom I had requested drive me, helped me into the office.

“My GOD,” the receptionist gasped.

“Jesus, Lori, you look awful!! Go sit down. Hurry!!”

The moment my doctor saw me she knew what the problem was, although as a consummate professional, she was smiling and calm. She wrote me an order for an MRI and told me not to delay.

Ah, yes, an MRI. I knew an MRI was in the cards and I had no idea how I would afford it. The coffers were approaching empty. We were already rationing food and eating our own chickens’ eggs as a staple. How do I get an MRI? I came home and contacted a radiology center in a city about an hour away.

“Hi,” I said casually. “I suspect I may have a brain tumor and I need an MRI but I have no insurance. What is your cash payment rate for a scan?”

“A brain tumor?” the woman laughed it off. “Oh, I doubt that. Why do you think that?” she asked.

“Well, that’s kinda what the MRI is for,” I replied, a bit snarkily, “but I’ve had a splitting headache for a few months now, I can’t walk straight, and I’m puking my guts out every time I move. That doesn’t seem normal, does it?”

“Oh dear, no, no it doesn’t,” she replied, sudden concern in her voice.

“Our cash rate is seven hundred dollars, but you can apply for a hardship request. Just write a letter explaining your situation and we’ll see what we can do.”

A hardship grant! One thing I can do is write a good letter, so I sat down with my aching head, my poor vision, my puking guts, and my now weakening right hand and typed up a letter detailing the history of my symptoms and our financial situation. I pleaded for help. I faxed it off and waited.

Meanwhile, I was chatting to Nick and told him what was going on.

“I got back from the doctor a while ago,” I said. “She wants me to have an MRI.”

“That’s good, isn’t it?” he said. “But, I guess that means she thinks you have a problem?” His concern and fear came through, even in a chat window.

“I sent a letter to the radiology place. They might be able to get me a reduced price on the scan,” I explained. “Otherwise, it will be a fortune.”

“I wish I could teleport you to England, Lori,” he said. “They’d do it for free here.”

“I know. I wish you could, too,” I said. I wished I were in England for more than just an MRI. “I’m sure they’ll come up with something.”

“Anyway, I know it’s probably nothing serious,” I tried to reassure both of us. “I still wonder if I just knocked something out of whack with that fall a few months ago.” I knew that was bullshit.

“I hope so, Lori,” Nick responded. “I just want you back to normal.”

“Thanks, me too!” I laughed.

“Whatever that is,” I joked.

I wanted to reassure him that I would be fine, that it would be nothing and I’d be right as rain soon. I don’t think I was too convincing, however. I felt his ((((hugs)))) through the chat window as if he was really there. I missed him. I wanted him there taking care of me since Gene was doing the bare minimum and grudgingly at that. I wanted Nick’s love.

About two hours later, I received a phone call from the director of the radiology center. My hardship request had been approved at 100% coverage. No payment required. Free!! She booked me in for an appointment the next morning.

That morning, I woke up, did my now requisite wretching, and asked Gene to help me dress as I was so off balance I couldn’t even put on my jeans. He helped me and perhaps was now just realizing how bad off I really was. He had to put on and tie my shoes also as I couldn’t bend over because of the pain. I gathered my purse and a puke bag for the car – just in case. The hour drive down winding mountain roads, in a vehicle with hard suspension, just about did me in. I vomited several times before reaching the radiology center and was so wobbly when I arrived, I needed to take the elevator to the second floor. I was holding onto Gene for dear life as I couldn’t even stand on my own.
The technician came to take me back for the MRI and fortunately he was a big guy as he needed to help me down the corridor and onto the table. As he helped me sit on the edge of the platform, I pitched forward because I was so dizzy. Thankfully, his 6’2″, very muscular frame kept me from ending up on the floor. I’m not sure I could have gotten up if I had fallen over. As sick as I was, I was feeling very positive. I knew this would show the problem and everything would be OK. The MRI lasted thirty or forty minutes as I lay there, trying not to move. I knew the importance of clear pictures and I was determined, despite my dizziness and overwhelming nausea, to have a clear scan.

It was another hour of the same winding, mountain roads on the way home, and while Gene was showing some compassion at this point and driving as gently as he could, I was still vomiting every ten minutes or so. I believe he really started to understand the gravity of my situation at this point. He became the Gene I used to know – loving and caring and concerned. It was a welcome change from the last few years of derision and belittlement I had felt from him, but I knew my heart was already elsewhere. It was too late.
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Drive and Ambition

I want to change the world someday, but I need to change my life right now.

In the world we live in there are so many opportunities. The internet offers contacts and friends without you ever having to leave your house. The world is at your fingertips– you can find anything, buy anything and sell anything; you can be a mogul, a power unto yourself, you can be the most successful business person or the most listened to self help guru.

I know a man who has been involved in the political happenings of late. He fought for his Presidential candidate with vigour, he won fans, and together with his chosen party achieved many, many objectives successfully. The man I speak of has utilised the internet, social skills and his humility to win the votes of many a fine person. WE can all learn from this driven man!

Drive, ambition, and the power to fight for your dreams are your tools. You can do so much, make so many changes. You are a talented individual.

How many times have you dreamt of a life different to the one you lead? Why have you stalled? Why are you not in the White House?

I can guarantee that you have all the talents of any President! You just haven’t used them yet, or discovered them perhaps? You haven’t felt the need! Take them out of the closet and start to shake the cobwebs off!

What do YOU really want from life?

Plan, enact and achieve and you will be a success, even if you fail. You succeed, strive and meet the world face to face, blow for blow, the world belongs to you!

I dreamt of a world where there were no failures, I cried because the people knew so very little.

The Healing Process

Allow time to heal your pain, let the water roll over your beach and live and just let live. You’re going to lose all that pain someday.

Dealing with a break up or a tragedy is hard. I, myself, have found the very core of my soul shaken by problems masquerading as earthquakes before now. I believe that we move forward through the trouble and strife to a new tomorrow, a brand new day.

In a book I wrote with my wife to be Lori, I talked about the process of abuse. I would like to talk about this for a short time with you today.

Abuse can be disguised in many shapes, forms and dealings. The bullied, beguiled and beaten are all victims. We need to look for the victims in our society and make them part of ourselves.

I believe that one of the biggest forms of abuse is bullying fellow humans. It is no lie to state the fact that we shun many of the people in our society that we should embrace. In modern times we have clouded ourselves with vanity and perfection, whilst we have ignored many of those whom we don’t consider beautiful, perfect or admirable.

This has to change.

It has to change because we as humans cannot obtain perfection, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There is nothing ‘special’ about running down another human being because of a difference.

If we keep running down our neighbours and keep knocking those who we deem ‘lesser’, soon we will find ourselves questioning many things.

We will find ourselves asking, are we so special?

Everyone is special, but none are more special than another. The human body is a perfectly imperfect thing, there is no beauty other than the beauty of the soul of a person. Looks wither, skin grows old, eyes go blind. Souls are ageless.

Next time you say that you think someone is ugly, ask yourself! Do they think you are ugly?

Are you ugly?

No!

But if you can call someone else ugly, does it not seem right that they can call you ugly?

The truth is that neither of you are ugly and nobody is cleverer than another person. We are all talented. Let the talents flow and feel secure enough in yourself to stop belittling those whom you consider ‘less’.

Best Wishes

Nick Wale

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When You Wish…

Do you know what happened to the people who got everything they ever wanted?

They lived happily ever after.

I fell down into a pit of loneliness and lost my mind. I wished for the moon and found my wife to be Lori. I was travelling to California and decided to write a book. I was unemployed and found myself unable to cope. I believed in myself, I believed in my talents and I found the light at the end of that tunnel. Good or bad, I found my way through.

Self belief is what makes the stuff of dreams turn to reality. The poor turn into the wealthy and realise that the only currency they ever held was self belief. That drive, that ambition, moves us forward to a new goal. The realisation that one day we will stand high on the top of a mountain of accomplishments is certain. We will stand as people and we will die as people, but between birth and death, we shall be free to make our dreams come true.

What is a success?

To be successful, to be one with your very own self, is something few people understand. I don’t either. I believe that we all have a purpose in life. We dream, we achieve and conquer, rise and fall. Life throws mud, but our strength acts as our very own guard. There is nothing we cannot achieve if we stay true to ourselves.

Focus!

Plan!

Move!

Achieve!

Focus yourself on a goal, focus with precision, move yourself towards the very path you have chosen. Those who goad and deny your very own talent are jealous. If you come across an obstacle move around and carry on. Let nothing stop you, for an uncompleted goal is something that we cannot stand as humans. Failure is good, it makes us strive to complete a task. Keep focused throughout the storm and carry your plan through.

Many will stand by and watch, they will offer no help, they will observe and join in just as you achieve your goal. Do not let them drag you down, you are your own power. You can make it on your own.

Plan your way along the paths of life. Keep the map in your hand and guide your weary body to the point of rest. You can rest at the end, you cannot fail with your plan so solidly created. Feel yourself grow stronger with every step and know that you will alone had travelled this road.

Move swiftly, carefully, but do not be alarmed if you take an incorrect path. The path you may take you away from the goal you have in mind, but don’t forget that there are many ways into a city. If a path takes you a different route, enjoy and learn from the experience.

You have reached the city limits, you are there and you can now feel glad that you have achieved your goal. You are one step further up that huge mountain of achievements.

I believe that we all have so much to give in this world. Every single human being is wonderful. There are talents, beautiful people and wonderful experiences around every corner. Being positive, attracting your own luck and being a good person are some of the most important things in life, in my opinion.

I have had many moments of despair, but I believe in my talents. I believe in my own positive aura, I believe that I have a purpose.

You do too. You are wonderful.

“Focus on your dreams and then allow your dreams to focus on you!”